8 thoughts on “This Is My Plan B

  1. "Adapting my dreams to better match my realities...That is my Plan B." I love that quote. It reminds me of an interview I read recently with Michael J. Fox. He said, "I find my happiness increases in relation to my acceptance and decreases in relation to my expectations." This seems to be a lesson we all have to learn, and the more we can do it, the more peaceful and joyful we'll be.

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  2. I moved back to the states to get medical help, thinking I would only be here for maybe a year before heading back overseas. I've been home for 12.5 years now. There have been visits and a hope still lingers that plan "A" - of living overseas - will somehow show up again in plan "J" or "T" or whatever plan I'm on now. 🙂

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  3. Wow - I know I'm a few months behind but thank you. I've been beating myself up for ages for not 'making things happen'. I was always struggling against something but never knew what, 1 step forwards 3 steps back become my reality. This year I decided to stop my incessant traveling in hopes to finally (at 32) figure out what was up (I hesitate to say 'wrong'). I've just cleared up 2 parasites, h pylori and candida which were found in a stool test. I've also just gotten a SIBO diagnosis and go to see the gastroenterologist in Jan. I'm struggling to accept my new reality and adapt my dreams... The power of knowing you're not the only one that feels like this is profound. Thank you so much for your beautiful transparency throughout your entire blog. Right now it's all a blessing xxx

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  4. Anonymous

    Angie, thank you so much for sharing your story. It touched me deeply. I too have an autoimmune condition (one confirmed, and 2 on an ongoing monitoring for confirmation), and I think mine is a "reverse Plan B." I came to the US from Russia to study , and I fully intended to go back upon completion (a sort of a debt of honor to my country and all the people who supported my studies). But along the way...yes, after a number of years of going from doctor to doctor...I got the diagnosis and eventually stumbled upon the cure (from GAPS and SDC and Nourishing Traditions to Paleo to autoimmune protocol)...but now, as months and years are going by, (and yes, I am feeling better, but like you I am far from being back to "normal")...I am beginning to wonder and worry whether I can really go back to Russia--it took me so long to figure out what to eat and not to eat, and where to buy and where not to buy my food in the US, I wonder if such thing is even possible in Russia, given the lack of quality control and so on! So, just two days ago I had a thought...that really scared me: "I don't think I can go back." So much hangs on on this simple statement: the fear of disappointing other people (including those who payed my tuitions and fees), shame of being a "wasted" investment, guilt, and just plain sadness. (I am a Russian after all.) And yet...there it is: "plan B"...thank you deeply - reading your blog feels almost like a providential thing. ~ N. Eloise.

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  5. Chani

    Really needed to read this right now. I have recently realised that I have been holding so tightly on to the dreams that I've had for myself such as pursuing my career, travelling, having children that I have been making things a lot harder on myself and have not been able to truly start healing. I've definitely been visiting my 'Plan B' lately. Not that this is easy to do, especially when my husband has just jetted off to Bali for a week of diving without me and I have spent the day with a French couple our age who are travelling around Australia and having some amazing experiences. I can't help but feel a sense of missing out but I love the quote from Michael J Fox. I definitely think keeping this in mind is the way to move forward.

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  6. Carey

    Such a great post, Angie! My husband and I like to say that it's great to have a plan so we know when we're changing the plan. In a way my life is the opposite of yours: I never planned to live overseas long-term, but sometime this year will pass the marker that half of my life has been outside the US. It works for our family but it's also hard, missing the sense of rootedness you get from being in a place for a long time. Just to say that what you couldn't realize was one dream - but look at the amazing one you've discovered instead. Good on ya for rolling with it and discovering an authentic calling in another space.

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